Here’s a great little video of the basics of knowing your future partner. No rocket science. Lot’s of common sense (which is often very uncommon). I suggest using these tips a the bare minimum. The more you know now, the less you’ll be surprised later. I’ll write more later about my thoughts on premarital counseling along with some good resources to help out.
Matt Turvey with PREPARE/ENRICH sent me the button below which gives you entrance to a much more personalized and detailed tool called the Couple Checkup. Even though it’s designed for dating or engaged couples, it also works for married couples. My wife and I took it this afternoon and found several areas of focus for us to refine our marriage. I think one of the best uses of tools like this is to focus discussion. You can take this inventory at home for very little cost and get a user-friendly 15-20 page report. I’m going to recommend it for my clients as well as for my own marriage. Check it out.
And now for an edited addition in response to Adam’s comment asking for more: Smart Marriages offers a directory of resources available across the country. With this list, there can no longer be an excuse. I’ll just list the headings here:
Deeply Troubled/On the Brink of Divorce
Infidelity – You Can Recover
Inventories – compatibility and strengths
Stepfamilies & Remarriage
Marriage Enrichment – make your good thing better.
Cruises, Retreats, Destinations, & Get-Aways
At a Distance – Strengthen your marriage without leaving home (Telecourses, DVDs, phone coaching, internet, etc.)
State & Community Marriage Initiatives (CHMI)