Sadly, there are as many marriages broken by infidelity as ever before. Happily, there are more resources than ever before to help marriages heal. About 70% of those who seek counseling are successful in restoring their marriage. I understand that the December issue of Redbook Magazine will have an excellent article,
“Could Your Marriage Survive An Affair?”
It’s written from the point of view of people who have experienced it. While the article that I wrote some years ago is written for counselors, I’m gratified to see the principles overlap. I’m also interested to note that the dynamics of recovering from sexual infidelity are the same as those involved in recovering from alcohol/drug addiction and pornography. It’s a lengthy process and it takes a lot of work, but it’s worth it to learn about integrity, transparency and trust at higher levels of reality. Even the offended party can benefit from recovery from betrayal. It’s a godly trait to be able to forgive without being naive (or stupid) and to negotiate a stronger basis for an intimate relationship. Fortunately, God doesn’t require us to be perfectly perfect before allowing us to enjoy a secure relationship with Him.