Help Children of Divorce

January 17, 2012

Kids suffer from divorce.  My heart goes out to these boys and girls who often demonstrate more common sense about getting along than their parents.  They face an enormous adjustment for which no kid is equipped without some help.   Now, KidWorks provides that help.  Here’s a note from Rob Pine, the Executive Director, ChristianWorks for Children, highlighting a strong leader, Monica Epperson, and a ten-year-old boy of divorced parents, Cody.   Watch the video, read their story, let your heart respond with some kind of support.   They need facilitators as well as financial support.  Are children important?  Jesus thought so: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”  (Matthew 19:14)

Rob writes:

God directed Monica Epperson our way to serve Him and join us as a National Representative for KidWorks, to develop and distribute materials, and to train others across the country.  She has a powerful story of her own as a child of divorce, and she has a passion to help children defeat the fears and worries that accompany that experience.  The author of two children’s books, Bounce and A Heart with Two Homes, Monica provides personal and heart-rendering insight into the issues that children of divorce face and into how KidWorks effectively addresses those issues.   She writes about this in a posting on the ChristianWorks.

It was a typical night at KidWorks, and all the groups had been in session for awhile.  The topic for the evening was Fears and Worries. One of the Middles’ facilitators suddenly appeared with a little boy named Cody who had asked to leave the group. Cody was obviously having a hard time that evening and began to cry. Our KidWorks Coordinator listened as he explained he wanted to leave because he didn’t want to cry in front of the other kids. In Cody’s own words, he expressed that “Fourth graders are too big to cry, but I know it’s alright to cry.” This exceptional ten year old boy must have felt very torn. As the conversation continued, he eventually shared what was behind the tears. His divorced parents continued to fight in front of him even while talking on the phone. The public display of his parent’s inability to get along was a big worry for him. After a bit of conversation, and composure on Cody’s part, he was ready to go back into the group. He felt better!

Cody was really brave to share as he did. He was brave enough to cry, even though it was not in front of the other kids. As is often the case with children of divorce, his pain and hurt were deeply rooted. Being able to release the pain and hurt is a step in the healing process.  KidWorks is a safe place where kids can share their deepest hurts along with their fears and
worries. Group facilitators help kids like Cody learn to address issues of divorce as well as help them learn coping skills to deal with those issues.

You can contact the KidWorks Coordinator, Beverly Ritz at britz@christian-works.org, for more information.


Setting the Pace for 2012

January 2, 2012

Riddle: It provides fun on New Year’s Eve, avoids unsafe travel, contributes to a good social cause, and builds intimacy in marriage.  Solution: “Nell’s Charity Ball” at the Sterling Hotel in Dallas.

At the Sterling Hotel, Dallas

The ballroom dance bug bit me this past year and the infection is spreading!  I’m guessing about 300 people danced to a live band in the largest ballroom I’ve ever seen.  Jack Melick’s Big Band played Auld Land Syne  at twelve . . . Twelve NOON, than is.  The ball began at 11:30 AM with a light lunch, interrupted by an announcement that somewhere in the world the New Year had begun.  The problem of dangerous night driving solved!

Sue Fitzgerald, Tango & Cha Cha

 

Sue Fitzgerald invited us.  In addition to radiating a lovely personality, she owns the dance studio, Tango and Cha Cha, in North Dallas where we have our dance lessons.  She is the newest addition to my list of good people doing good things in the community.  We plan to visit her studio as close to every week as possible in 2012.   Her sponsorship of two tables at this New Year’s Ball and the net proceeds went to support “The Children’s Advocacy of Plano”  and “The Children’s Hospital of Dallas,”  two wonderful agencies that serve the needs of abused or neglected children.

New Year's Eve 2011

 

For three hours we danced away the old year and set the tone for 2012.  The tone resonates with fun, intimacy, social connections, and good exercise.  I recommend ballroom dancing to build intimacy in a marriage.  More details on this will come in future blog posts.

 

If some of you dancers have already experienced this, add a comment with some specifics.